It's a very bad idea to increment the refcount on behalf of another
process. That process may (for either benign or evil reasons) not
reference the SharedBuffer, and then we'll be stuck with loads of
SharedBuffers until we OOM.
Instead, increment the refcount when the buffer is mapped. That way, a
buffer is only kept if *someone* has explicitly requested it via
get_shared_buffer.
Fixes#341
We were locking the list of references, and then destroying the
reference, which made things go a little crazy.
It's more straightforward to just remove the per-reference lock: the
syscalls all have to lock the full list anyway, so let's just do that
and avoid the hassle.
While I'm at it, also move the SharedBuffer code out to its own file as it's
getting a little long and unwieldly, and Process.cpp is already huge.
